Thoughts About Barbara's Kidneys
Just some thoughts about Barbara and her kidney situation.....I said in my last post that I would only give my kidney to a family member or Jose. Even then I would really have to think hard about it because I would probably only give it to my mother or one of my siblings. My father isn't really in my life and I doubt I would consider giving it to him. Jose has asked me numerous times why I won't give Barbara a kidney and I've told him that I don't believe in giving my organs away (at least not while I'm alive). That is pretty close to the truth because I feel something deep inside of me that it is not right to do that. And I'm not sure it's right to do that when you are dead either. I am probably in the minority on this one, but I sort of feel like you are playing God by giving someone one of your organs to keep them alive when God has decided it's their time. I know you can live with one kidney, but why did God give us two of them then? I don't think it was so that we could give one away. I'm pretty sure your body functions more efficiently with two kidneys. It would take a very serious situation for me to consider giving away one of my kidneys. Barbara is not even my friend.....we don't even like each other. I'm sure some might say that because she is so important to Jose, it should be that important to me as well. I've asked my friends for advice on this subject, to tell me if I'm wrong in my thinking. No one has told me I'm wrong. If anyone cares to comment.......
Jose has become the poster child for organ donation since all of this happened and I'm sure he resents me for not getting tested myself. At the very least I don't think he respects my decision. I realize he loves his friend and doesn't want her to die, but I can't even consider giving Barbara a kidney. First of all, I think Barbara developed diabetes pretty young, so she is not completely at fault for that. I do believe that people who acquire diabetes because of poor lifestyle habits are somewhat to blame for their condition. Especially nowadays because we know you can acquire it from poor eating habits and lack of exercise. It is pretty common knowledge, even if you are uneducated. I know for a fact though, that Barbara certainly didn't do anything to improve her situation. Her diet is terrible, she has always been overweight, and she doesn't exercise. She did not take her diabetes seriously and I don't feel that she does even to this day, despite the news that her kidneys were functioning at 20% and she would need dialysis. The doctors told her to lose weight, but she hasn't. She bought a treadmill.....she doesn't use it. I believe that Barbara is now AT LEAST partly responsible for her situation and maybe even completely responsible. If she had taken care of herself, her kidneys might have held out for another 2o or 30 years......maybe even for the rest of her life. We'll never know for sure. If I knew I had diabetes and could make lifestyle changes to keep it under control, I would jump on that bandwagon so fast it would make your head spin. I take good care of myself now and I have no health problems to inspire me. I don't understand how someone cannot in her situation.......
So now, Barbara is faced with a lifetime of dialysis unless she gets a new kidney. First of all, she didn't take care of the kidneys she had!! Now you expect someone to give you a new one? And for what, so you can go and trash that new kidney as well? I'm sorry, but we all make choices in life and Barbara chose not to take care of her health or kidneys. Am I being too harsh? I am pretty certain that Barbara would not make any lifestyle changes if she were to get a new kidney. So my question is, does she even deserve a new kidney? I'm not saying this because I dislike her......I would say the same thing about anyone. What if I gave Barbara my healthy kidney and she destroyed that one also? Then I'm out a kidney and she is still not well. Who benefits from that? Nobody........there are just too many reasons why I can't give Barbara my kidney. Mostly because she is not family, but also because I don't feel she is very deserving. Jose will probably hate me if he ever reads this, but that is how I feel about this situation. I'm sorry that this is happening to Barbara, but she is partly responsible. Feedback, anyone?
Jose has become the poster child for organ donation since all of this happened and I'm sure he resents me for not getting tested myself. At the very least I don't think he respects my decision. I realize he loves his friend and doesn't want her to die, but I can't even consider giving Barbara a kidney. First of all, I think Barbara developed diabetes pretty young, so she is not completely at fault for that. I do believe that people who acquire diabetes because of poor lifestyle habits are somewhat to blame for their condition. Especially nowadays because we know you can acquire it from poor eating habits and lack of exercise. It is pretty common knowledge, even if you are uneducated. I know for a fact though, that Barbara certainly didn't do anything to improve her situation. Her diet is terrible, she has always been overweight, and she doesn't exercise. She did not take her diabetes seriously and I don't feel that she does even to this day, despite the news that her kidneys were functioning at 20% and she would need dialysis. The doctors told her to lose weight, but she hasn't. She bought a treadmill.....she doesn't use it. I believe that Barbara is now AT LEAST partly responsible for her situation and maybe even completely responsible. If she had taken care of herself, her kidneys might have held out for another 2o or 30 years......maybe even for the rest of her life. We'll never know for sure. If I knew I had diabetes and could make lifestyle changes to keep it under control, I would jump on that bandwagon so fast it would make your head spin. I take good care of myself now and I have no health problems to inspire me. I don't understand how someone cannot in her situation.......
So now, Barbara is faced with a lifetime of dialysis unless she gets a new kidney. First of all, she didn't take care of the kidneys she had!! Now you expect someone to give you a new one? And for what, so you can go and trash that new kidney as well? I'm sorry, but we all make choices in life and Barbara chose not to take care of her health or kidneys. Am I being too harsh? I am pretty certain that Barbara would not make any lifestyle changes if she were to get a new kidney. So my question is, does she even deserve a new kidney? I'm not saying this because I dislike her......I would say the same thing about anyone. What if I gave Barbara my healthy kidney and she destroyed that one also? Then I'm out a kidney and she is still not well. Who benefits from that? Nobody........there are just too many reasons why I can't give Barbara my kidney. Mostly because she is not family, but also because I don't feel she is very deserving. Jose will probably hate me if he ever reads this, but that is how I feel about this situation. I'm sorry that this is happening to Barbara, but she is partly responsible. Feedback, anyone?
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